Trail membership online dating
Harem members may or may not know about each other. It often comes as a great surprise to most women that the man they’ve been obsessing over, has actually been bouncing around from woman to woman.
Narcissists like secrecy, because if his harem members ever compared notes, the web of lies that they’ve been weaving would come crashing down and he would lose his stash of supply.
This woman even knew that he was dating other women and was willing at all costs to still have him in her life.
Somewhere in the back of our minds, in some crazy rationale we tell ourselves things like, “oh he’ll date someone else and then realize how much better he had it with me and he’ll come back.” That might be true in the short term, but by showing him that you’ll put up with him dating other women, he’ll do just that and then come back when that doesn’t work out and then leave again…all the while you are on an emotional rollercoaster never knowing where you stand or when he’s coming or going.
The general Narcissistic cycle goes something like this – Narcissist finds new meat, lavishes her with attention and moves really fast – he keeps former girlfriends on ice by feeding them hope and nuggets of attention and affection – the new meat loses her shine and she gets relegated to the harem – he may bounce back to an old harem member in the interim while he looks for someone new and on and on it goes.
The women he meets could be beautiful, have a great job, good friends and money in the bank. It’s never about her and it will always turn out the same way.
My appearance, my behavior was constantly under scrutiny by the harem and I had to eventually hit the pavement, because it felt like I was dating him and every other woman he had ever been involved with.
At worst it shows a user mentality and someone that likes to keep his options open.
I know we all want to be the winner, where all other women have failed, but the best indicator of future behavior is past behavior.
He will throw you crumbs of affection and he will spin tales, hinting of a possible future together.
This membership allows him to pop in and out of your life, mess with your head and keep tabs on you, while at the same time it keeps you stuck and fixated on him.